girls and marriage

Sometimes I wish I could match my friends up with the right guy, at least who I think it's the right guy. Now I understand my mother... her worries... I have a friend who is finally going out with a guy that "sounds" good. I haven't met him yet because she lives far away. But, is he the right guy for her? Who knows? I am religious so I believe God knows, and unfortunately, only He.

It is hard to give advice to your friends in such situations and the funny thing is, at that moment we all “need” advice. The sad part is that we shouldn’t give our opinion at all because we don’t know what happens on closed doors. We don’t know what is really said and done. We only hear one side of the story, a few times both, but it still just perception not fact.

So here I am judging a guy I have never met. All I know is that he “really” likes her or at least that is what she says. She has a problem, or will for what I hear between the lines: her career. Problem is that she is ambitious, which I consider a quality in a person and a virtue in a woman. But how ambitious should we be and in which areas of our lives?

I am ambitious in all my life aspects I think. I want a successful career, a family, a good loving intelligent husband, children, the house, the Volvo SUV :o) etc. At least, all these are do-able. Thank God! And what I cannot have, I can compromise. That’s a relationship. For her, I am worried. I don’t feel like she knows this part. She has a great guy (her opinion) but she thinks she won’t reach her career goals alongside him. She is successful, I can vow to that. How much more can she want? I wonder… She does want love. No one can live without it. Actually, I think no one should. So, would you compromise or would you be strict? Isn’t it better to reach a balance? Or should we “have it all” although we know we can’t?